Fight Club Notes

Here are the study notes from the final "Fight Club" message:

Bible passage - 2nd Corinthians 5:18-21


I. The Fight Club goal: Reconciliation.

A. Reconciliation is NOT...

1. Justifying your actions in the mind of the other person.

2. Being completely UNDERSTOOD.

3. Convincing the other person that he or she was WRONG.

B. The goal of reconciliation is a relationship characterized
by acceptance in spite of PAST offenses and CURRENT differences.

C. You have to decide: Are you going to take a STAND or BUILD a relationship?


SECRET: Reconciliation paves the way to relationship,which paves the way to INFLUENCE.


II. Fight Club strategy: Create a safe relational ENVIRONMENT.

A. Prying and coercing don't work for turtles or PEOPLE.

B. Safe environments are characterized by HUMILITY and ACCEPTANCE.

C. Reconciliation is not primarily about CONFLICT resolution.


III. Fight Club motto: The best defense is NO defense.

Reconciliation often requires that we shoulder the consequences and complications of someone else's decisions